It costs nothing to give it a try, and see if it works for you too !
DISCLAIMER : Obviously if you are suffering from depression or any other disorders, this won’t be the only help needed. I would advise you to reach professionals, I am no doctor or professional and this is just me sharing my personal experience. I did reach for help, and these 13 little activities and things I am sharing with you are bonuses I use today to keep feeling better on a daily basis. If you need more help, here are some phone numbers and addresses that could be right for you. You are not alone.
– Here Are My 13 Things To Make Yourself Happier –
This is probably the number one I thought would never help me. But when I was down in the dumps, I eventually gave it a go, because I kept hearing good things about it. And… I was surprisingly amazed by the changes meditating brought to my Life. It brought peace, less stress and more power of letting go. Also, you learn to appreciate every present moment, and I think it is fundamental for a better lifestyle and a happier life.
Every morning when I wake up, I ask myself this simple but effective question : “What am I grateful for today ? Name 3 things.” And it makes you realize that no matter what is going wrong in your life at the moment, you can always find 3 small or big details that make you smile, and eventually grateful you are still Alive.
I know, I have been there, it can be tricky in the beginning, but if you give it a little think, you will find those 3 things, I promise.
3) “3 Things That Went Well Today”
On the opposite side, every time I go to bed, I ask myself what went well on that day. No matter what went wrong or my mood, even if something really unexpected or negative happened, I push myself to find 3 little things that made me smile. Even for a second. It could be someone’s words, it could be having no alarm to set, or it could be that delicious meal you had. Simple, subtle, but effective. It makes you go to sleep on a happier and more positive note.
6) Hobbies (practicing something or doing Art)
I won’t stress enough the importance of having your own hobbies aside work. No matter your job, I recon you need hobbies. It keeps you entertained after work and it makes you love it more. How about practicing a sport, art, an instrument ? I used to practice ice skating and I miss it dearly. I am definitely thinking about going back to practicing.
It gives you purpose, develop your skills and abilities, and it can distract you from your negative thoughts. It even helps you to express those said negative thoughts, maybe through Music or Art ? How many great paintings or songs come from a depressed soul ?
Writing is a good way of letting go everything out of your chest. Whether it is having a public blog, or maybe just a secret one. Maybe even a diary, like in the good old days ? When I was a teenager I used to have lots of personal diaries, and also a lot of blogs on the internet that no one would know about, so that I can just write for myself. I loved the feeling. Even reading them today can be really healing. You can understand a lot on yourself by reading through your old writings.
Because when you write for yourself, you know no one is going to judge you on your feelings and thoughts. And trust me, 2/3 years ago, I was so depressed that I could not think of talking to a therapist because I was ashamed of my feelings. Let’s not even talk about opening up to friends or family. It was not possible at that time for me. Writing was my only solution left, and it literally saved me.
9) Talking to your friends/loved ones
Now, if you feel like you can actually open up to your loved ones, then why not ? If you love them, you know you can trust them, right ? So talking to your friends or family, or whoever you feel you can talk to without any judgments, can be helpful. Some of them will have perspectives on your situation you never thought about, and it will eventually and hopefully help you so much. Only if you feel ready though.
11) Working Out
This is maybe a tough one for some, if like me you can’t do squats for more than 10 seconds. A few years from now, people around me told me to start working out so I could get out a little bit of my depression. I hated hearing it. So I completely understand that any of these points I am sharing with you, can be more or less tricky when you are really depressed.
But I gave it go recently, and I realized how much it helps me to free my mind from some old demons. I remember I even started crying in the middle of one session. Not because I was physically tired, but because I realized the emotional and physical benefits I was gaining from it. It made me own my body, and made me feel clean and refreshed.
12) Taking care of yourself / pampering yourself
As much as working out is a way of taking care of yourself, there are other ways to do so. Because self-care is SO important (See here). Physically and mentally. The impact one day of pampering yourself or just relaxing can have on you is unbelievable. It could be a nice massage (not for me though, I hate massages, eek !) or a hot bath. Or maybe just taking five minutes in a day to think about what you need (like, what your body really NEEDS, and not what you want). It helps changing your mindset and gives you less stress from your busy life.
Some of you might not like to read a lot. (But hey, aren’t you reading my blog right now ?) But reading can definitely help you to get a little bit happier. Whether it is your favorite type of novels or fictions, or maybe just a magazine, as long as you like the topic, I am 100% sure it will boost your mood a little bit. At least while you’re reading, because it will spark your interest long enough to distract you from your thoughts. And sometimes transports you to another dimension.
I used to hate reading for personal reasons and bad OCDs, but lately I tried to be more indulgent with myself, and I started reading a lot of inspirational and wellbeing books. And I can say it definitely helped me getting better. It also inspired me to keep on going with my blog !